3 ways to set healthy boundaries over the #holidays :
🎄1. TIME BOUNDARIES:
Have a plan and assert any time boundaries, preferably, in advance (especially if you have kiddos that could become irritable if they don’t get enough rest).
👄 Say: “We won’t be able to stay the night but are looking forward to lunch together”.
“We can only stay for 3 hours so, let’s make a plan about what’s important to share/do in that time.”
🎄2. TOPIC BOUNDARIES:
Someone is always looking to stir up a little holiday-drama-rama. Instead of letting topics ruffle your cheer, one tactic is to assert the boundary and then change the subject.
👄 Say: “Let’s not talk about that tonight. Let’s talk about… (how good this sweet potato pie is instead) (our favourite memories from this past year) (our biggest accomplishments this year) (what we are most looking forward to in 2022?).”
🎄 3. PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES:
[it’s a 2-parter]
A) Can we just STOP with #bodycomments already?!?!🙄 I know what I look like, I see myself in the mirror EVERY SINGLE DAY Auntie/Uncle/Mom/Dad.
B) Alsoooo can we talk about non-consensual hugs & kisses from family members, especially towards kids? No. She does not need to give you a hug. No. He does not need to give you a kiss. No. She does not need to sit on your lap. This is about learning how to engage with people meaningfully without walking all over someone’s body autonomy.
ALWAYS ASK SOMEONE/CHILD IF THEY WOULD LIKE TO GIVE/GET A HUG/KISS/TOUCH. #period
👄Say: “Comments about my body are never appropriate.”
“[Child’s name] Would you like to give [family member] a hug?”
“What I eat is none of your business.”
⛄️ 🎄Happy holidays, lovelies.
❤️✌🏼 love you, (first), #sohard
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