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eliminate People pleasing & Set HEALTHY boundaries.

stop f*cking settling for relationshit tactics with everybody.


Are you ready for your emotional makeover?

Let's grow.

You keep saying you want to be in 'positive and healthy relationships', but relationships have never been easy and, you don't know what to do about it.


Maybe you negative self-talk a lot or you say “sorry” to other people way too often. Maybe you feel angry at everyone all the time or maybe life feels hard because you have ADHD (or think you might?!) and you don't understand how it impacts your life.

Are you ready to elevate your mental wealth, healthy and happiness?

Learn more about my therapy programs, shop my products or book a call below to find out if I'm the right therapist vibe for you.

Activate your power. Elevate your peace. Let's learn how to love better.

I'm Carlen Costa DHS, MPH, RP, ACS, PAP an OCSWSSW Psychotherapist, Clinical Sexologist, TheraPsil® Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapist, Cannabis Integration Educator, international speaker, pleasure activist & author of the Amazon #1 best-seller  "Love: The Women's Guide to Not Fucking Settling". I help people learn how to love themselves and others better through radical self-acceptance. We work with emotional intelligence skills to elevate your mental health, personal power, and have more meaningful, intimate relationships with others.

I've been in private practice as a psychotherapist for 10+ years, supporting all humans in their healing, one heart at a time. In this space, you can sign-up for one of my therapy programs, tune in to an episode of my podcast Spicy Fat or head over to my swag shop and elevate your daily love with neurospicy lifestyle products.

I am a tough love healer, who integrates both evidence-based, emotional intelligence skill-building and energy transmutation into her work. You came here, because you need to know that it can be better. 

You know that you deserve to love bigger and be loved better.

Let's grow.

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I'm going to call out the dumb shit that you've been putting up with for too long,

& teach you how to set healthy boundaries

I'm going to build up your emotional intelligence.

i'm going to ignite your personal power.

I'm going to teach you how to activate from within.

Because when you love yourself better, you love others better. 


the confidence that you desirE

is the final destination of this journey - through the pillars of power, pleasure & peace. 

I know that you want to feel confident about the human that you are, about the relationships that you are in or the work that you are doing.

I can help you become the confident person that you deserve to be.

Because the relationship with yourself is the remedy to blast through blocks associated with:

-  mental health or neurodivergence  

- physical & intimate health

- relationship stagnation

- personal power activation

And, we need learn how to develop that relationship to elevate and reclaim who we are, so that we can show up for other relationships better.

Welcome, to the beginning of your greatest love story.

love you. so hard.

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